In the melting pot that is South Africa, where diverse cultures blend seamlessly, table manners serve as the universal language at any dining table. Whether you’re enjoying a braai with friends, dining in a high-end restaurant, or sitting down to a traditional meal, knowing your table manners is key. Here are 20 basic table manners that South Africans, and indeed anyone, should be aware of to ensure dining is always a pleasant experience for everyone involved.
1. RSVP Promptly
When invited to a dinner, always respond promptly. This shows respect for your host’s planning efforts.
2. Arrive on Time
Punctuality is a sign of respect. Arriving on time for a meal is basic yet crucial etiquette.
3. Dress Appropriately
Understand the occasion and dress accordingly, be it a casual braai or a formal dinner.
4. Use Napkins Wisely
Place your napkin on your lap shortly after sitting down. Use it subtly to dab your mouth when necessary.
5. Wait Before Eating
Wait until everyone is served and the host has begun to eat or indicated that you should start.
6. Understanding the Cutlery
Familiarize yourself with the basic cutlery setup. The general rule is to start with the outermost utensils and work your way in as the meal progresses.
7. Hold Utensils Correctly
Holding your fork and knife correctly not only makes for a more pleasant dining experience but also shows sophistication.
8. Chew with Your Mouth Closed
This one can’t be overstated. Chew your food with your mouth closed to avoid offending others.
9. Don’t Speak with Your Mouth Full
Wait until you have swallowed your food before speaking.
10. Pass Items Properly
Always use serving utensils, not your personal ones, to pass food. Pass items to the right, or as directed by the host.
11. Taste Before Seasoning
It’s polite to taste your food before adding any salt, pepper, or other seasonings. This shows appreciation for the cook’s efforts.
12. Sip, Don’t Slurp
When drinking, do so quietly. Slurping, especially when drinking soup or tea, can be distracting.
13. Keep Elbows Off the Table
While this rule relaxes once the meal is finished, keep your elbows off the table while eating.
14. Ask Politely for Items
If you need something passed, like the salt or a serving dish, ask politely instead of reaching across the table.
15. Take Modest Portions
Initially, take moderate portions to ensure there’s enough to go around, especially at communal meals.
16. Compliment the Chef
If you enjoy the meal, offer compliments to your host or the chef to show your appreciation.
17. Offer to Help Clean Up
Offering to help clear the table or wash dishes is a kind gesture, especially when dining in someone’s home.
18. Say Thank You
A simple “thank you” at the end of the meal to your host or the waitstaff is a sign of good manners and appreciation.
19. Understand the Host’s Signals
Be attentive to your host. If they indicate the meal is winding down, don’t be the last to leave.
20. Mind Your Mobile Manners
Keep your phone away unless necessary. If you must take a call, excuse yourself from the table.
In a country celebrated for its hospitality and cultural diversity, adhering to these basic table manners ensures that every dining experience is respectful and enjoyable. Whether it’s a Sunday lunch with family, a formal dinner, or a friendly gathering, these guidelines help maintain the harmonious spirit that South Africans cherish.
